Whether your partner gave you a really nice vibrator as a gift, or you finally decided to pick up one for yourself, it can be tough to figure out how to use a vibrator for the first time. There are so many settings, and if you’re used to masturbating with their hands, you’re probably going to feel awkward at first. And you know what? That’s OK.
Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist, says it’s a common reaction. Not everyone knows how to masturbate — whether we’re talking with a toy or without.The reality, she says, is that masturbating isn’t always instinctual. You have to learn what you like, and that often takes time and a willingness to experiment.
It’s also often necessary to play around with different types of vibrators. If you have one meant to stimulate your clitoris, you might want to try one that’s meant to stimulate your G-spot, or visa versa. It’s also important to keep in mind that a vibrator might not feel comfortable, if you try to move too fast.
That said, if you’d like to figure out how to use a vibrator, don’t let these trials and tribulations put you off. Here are seven steps for learning how to use your new toy — and maybe even have a better orgasm — for the first time.
Get To Know Your Vibrator
First things first, figure out what your specific vibrator is designed to do. Again, there are toys for clitoral stimulation, others for internal stimulation.
From there, familiarize yourself with the settings on your vibrator. Almost all toys these days have power settings that determine how intense the vibration will be, plus pattern settings that determine how they pulsate.
Check out the user manual that came with your toy, or look it up online. For even more tips on your specific vibrator, you can see if there are online reviews (websites like Oh Joy Sex Toy and A Roll In The Hay are great places to start).